Monday, 9 March 2015

Much Ado About Nothing

 
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The oddest thing about my husband being at home all the time, is that he now claims half of the house is his to do as he likes in.  This may sound fine and equitable but it means things like beard hair from his razor left in the bathroom sink, work surfaces are not wiped down after he cooks  (I hear you - at least he cooks!) He doesn't put the pillows straight on his side of the bed after our afternoon nap, doesn't close the drawers in the dressing room properly and demands to put plants he prefers in half the garden! The frustrating thing is his point of view is indisputably reasonable and the logic cannot be argued so I am obliged to put up with the above.  However, a line must be drawn on the subject of plasters.  Since (very foolishly) putting his hand on one of his machines that had to be heated up before using and finding too late that it was indeed hot, I am finding used plasters lying all over the house as, of course, they don't stay on his fingers for long when he works on his many projects. Perhaps I have a case for demanding their disposal (by him) from the point of view of hygiene?  So I have left them. So far. It looks as if I shall lose this one as he just doesn't seem to notice. To be fair I ought to mention that I am extremely possessive over my tins of furniture oil and refuse to allow them to be used to oil our wooden staircase because they are expensive.  "When did you last oil the furniture?" asked he.  Well because the product is expensive I had to admit the last time I had used it was before we moved house last year (that was in May).  QED - no reason why he can't use them then. Of course if we anticipate imminent visitors coming to stay, I shall throw principles to the wind and do all of the above myself.

6 comments:

  1. It is a fine balance to be struck, indeed.

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    1. Yes - visitors won't understand a half and half house

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  2. When I retired, my wife expressed some concern that I was going to invade her castle, her routine, her happy life that only had to put up with me for a few hours in the evening. As such I stay out of her hair, keep to my man corner, and try to be as unobtrusive as possible. It works quite well. I have no interest in laying siege to her world, and we are all the happier for it.

    Yes men don't seem to do things like women do. I do the dishes (more for my benefit than hers) yet I always leave some task undone. Not intentionally, its just that certain things like put pot holders away have to be actively thought about, and we don't. (It has to compete with thinking about sex every 8 seconds).

    I once read that when egalitarian men do things like bath the children, but then leave the wet towels on the floor, it drives women crazy.

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    1. You are correct in all of the above except the 'men think about sex every 8 seconds' bit. I take it that was tongue in cheek at our age - or was it wishful thinking?

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    2. Thought is cheap. You don't even need Viagra.

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    3. Remember that old joke that went the rounds when we were kids: "What's the lightest thing in the world - even a thought can raise?"

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