My mother tried to tell me this years ago but she and my father had delivered mixed messages when I was growing up and I ended up leaning towards my father’s philosophy of believing I that everyone else was better than me at everything. Likewise I believed that in any situation I was always the guilty party. These convictions have not served me well in life and I hope I have not passed them onto my children. Luckily, my husband comes from a large family whose mother gave them a more balanced view: “No-one is better than you, and you are better than no-one.” This seems to have produced a bunch of really nice, capable people. But old habits die hard and when I heard a discussion on the radio this morning about the obvious need to be self-confident in the job market, I nevertheless cringed automatically to hear a young woman respond to the question: “How good are you at your job?”, with the genuine reply, “I am brilliant at it”. Good luck to her. It’s a tough world out there. Survival of the fittest. I really wish I could say the same thing she did just once in my life. I did hear something that stuck recently though: just because someone you know has made a success of something - it doesn’t by implication mean that you are a failure.